Saturday, December 31, 2016

Higher education in United States ( Part -3)


Higher education in United States ( Part -3)

First Admission, Then Visa

The United States remains one of the most popular choices for higher education amongst international students.  That is due, in large part, to the large number of internationally ranked universities and colleges in the United States which offer flexible and competitive degrees with a strong focus on real-world experience. 

Gaining admission into one of these schools is the first and most important part of pursuing higher education in the United States, but after that, of course, comes the process of acquiring a student visa.  The following questions and answers would help clear up any confusion regarding the process.

Does the visa process take as long as I hear?

Once applicants complete the user-friendly student visa application on the Consular Electronic Application Center website, two appointment slots will be assigned to them.  The first appointment will be for submission of their information, including fingerprints and a photo, at the Visa Application Center.  The second appointment will be for their interview at the U.S. Consulate General.  Once applicants are interviewed and their visa approved, they receive their passports within one week.  You are now ready to travel!

What are the right answers to the visa interview questions?

Dont let anyone tell you that there is one right answer.  There are no right answers, because every student is different.  The visa officers enjoy engaging with students and look forward to learning about their education plans during the interview.  Be honest and share your plans!  Students should be able to discuss their choice of school, explain their career goals, and talk about the financial arrangements theyve made to afford studying in the United States.

What should I bring to my interview?

Students should remember to bring their acceptance letter, their I-20 form issued by the chosen university or college, standardized test scores, and any other documents that would be helpful in their interview.  Did you know that the U.S. Consulate General in Chennai conducts 1,000 to 1,500 visa interviews per day?  Most visa interviews do not last more than five minutes.  You can understand then why its important for the student to be able to concisely and fully answer the visa officers questions.

What documents should I carry with me when I travel?

Once a visa has been approved, students can start preparing for their exciting journey to the United States.  They should travel with their I-20 form and their passports since the immigration officers at the ports-of-entry may ask to see them.  Additionally, students have to be sure that they have paid the Student and Exchange Visitor Information System (SEVIS) fee prior to the interview, and they should carry the proof of payment along with their passport when they enter the United States.  Students will have difficulty enrolling in classes for their programs if they cant show that theyve paid the fee.

What else do I need to know?

Anyone who has ever traveled or studied in a different country knows that it comes with unique challenges.  It is important for students to familiarize themselves with the U.S. education system and take measures to smoothly transition into a new culture. 

Education USAs pre-departure orientation sessions are a great way to get started.  Alumni events, information sessions, and virtual campus tours held by the respective universities or colleges are other resources that students can utilize.  Most importantly, get involved with the community and students at your new school and have fun!

If you have further questions, you can find information on our website: in.usembassy.gov/visas.

You can also learn more about studying in the United States here: educationusa.state.gov.

Thanks to : Thinamalar (Kalvimalar) - 09.12.2016

Higher Education in United States ( Part -2)



Higher Education in United States ( Part -2)

Cracking the financial conundrum and the application package!

In the last article, you read about choosing your right fit colleges in the United States. The second step in preparing for your U.S. higher education is getting your financial planning right.

The fee structures and living expenses vary widely across U.S. universities and from city to city. While there is preponderance to choose universities based on popularity, it would be well worth it to take the road less travelled.

 If you research your choice of universities correctly, you could find accredited, small universities in a semi-urban setting that offer excellent programs and research opportunities with a fee structure and living costs that fits into your budget.

Your first source of finance is, of course, your family, and you should have this conversation as early as possible to explore educational loans and other funding. Scholarships and financial aid at U.S. universities are quite competitive and depend on the funding available at your chosen university and department, and other factors including your application profile.

Financial aid for Bachelors programs (under graduation) can be need-based, merit-based or a hybrid of both. It is important to note that need-based aid is also given to students with the greatest merit. Undergraduate students could study for the first two years at a community college and then transfer to a four-year university thus bringing down the overall cost considerably.

At the Masters/PhD (graduate) level, aid is purely merit-based and could be in the form of assistantships or fellowships. Fellowships or scholarships are merit grants awarded without any return in the form of service from the student. Assistantships could be part time jobs as a teaching, research or administrative assistant in exchange for a tuition waiver and/or a stipend. International students are allowed to work up to 20 hours per week on campus while the university is in session, and for 40 hours per week during vacation, provided you are enrolled as a full time student for the following semester.

 Many students may not receive financial aid or assistant ships at the time of admission but they may become eligible after the first semester or the first year depending on their academic performance. Applying to U.S. universities with less international/Indian students could also give you the advantage while competing for international student scholarships and position you as a unique applicant.

Some universities consider all international students automatically for scholarships, and some require a separate application. You should check the websites of your chosen universities for financial aid information and application process. You could also explore sports, diversity, or region-based scholarships depending on your profile.

In general, admission into a program and financial aid depends much on your overall profile, taking into account your academic achievements, standardized test scores, demonstrated leadership skills, extra-curricular achievements (special talents); community service and sports abilities.

A strong application that represents you well requires time and concentrated effort on your part.

You should check the individual university application requirements. At the graduate level students must also make sure to check department requirements along with general admission requirements.In general, the application package constitutes of an online application form, application fee, attested academic transcripts, submission of standardized test scores (SAT/ACT or GRE/GMAT), language proficiency scores(TOEFL/IELTS/PTE), three letters of recommendation(LOR) - from teachers, professors or work supervisors), essay/ statement of purpose (SOP)/ personal statement (PS) or a statement of research(SOR); financial statements showing that a student/family has enough funds to cover costs for the first year of education.

The essay/SOP/PS/SOR is central to a strong application and much effort must go into writing and customizing it to different universities, as required. The LOR is also critical to making a strong case for you. Be sure to approach your school teachers, college professors or internship mentors well in advance. Choose recommenders who know you well and can highlight your academic achievements as well as non-academic talents.

Undergraduate applicants may choose from the following portals to fill out U.S. university applications:  www.commonapp.org; www.coalitionforcollegeaccess.org/; https://www.universalcollegeapp.com/or region specific portals, eg. https://www.applytexas.org/or the https://admissions.universityofcalifornia.edu/. Some universities may have their own independent application form that needs to be filled online.

Make sure you understand the difference between the various admissions deadlines like rolling, regular, early decision and early action. For graduate admissions, you should fill in independent application forms for each university on their website.

Lastly, but importantly, be honest in your application and meet the application deadlines. This will help put your best foot forward.

Here are some useful resources to get started on your financial planning:

- Look up: https://educationusa.state.gov/your-5-steps-us-study/finance-your-studies and http://www.fundingusstudy.org/
- For U.S. university announcements and scholarships, like us on: Facebook/Education USA at Chennai
- Join free online sessions every Friday at 4 p.m. at: bit.ly/Educationusawebinar
- Education USA channel on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/EducationUSAtv

To speak to an EducationUSA Adviser at the United States-India Educational Foundation, Chennai, contact tel. 044-28574134 or email: usiefchennai@usief.org.in

Thanks to : Thinamalar (Kalvimalar) 07.12.2016

Higher Education in United States ( Part-1)


Higher Education in United States ( Part-1)

Dreaming of enhancing your quality of life by choosing a better quality of education?

If so, you need to follow this series of article for three weeks to make your dream a reality. Yes, for those in high schools or close to finishing a college degree, this series will enrich you with crystal clear idea on pursuing higher studies in the United States. Welcome to the land of opportunity.

In todays global work environment, you need an internationally mobile educational qualification which equips you with not just knowledge for today jobs, but also gives you critical thinking ability to create and adapt to jobs of the future. Nothing prepares you better for such a futuristic career than studying in the United States which has experiential learning and research at its very core. An American degree is recognized across the world and opens up a wide range of opportunities. More than 132,000 Indian students have chosen to study in the U.S. and are currently making their mark in American classrooms with their talent and hard work.

Students are usually admitted into U.S. universities in fall (August) or spring (January) semesters.  You should start your preparations at least 12 - 18 months prior to the program start date in the U.S. since the application deadlines are at least 10 months in advance. If you think you are already late, not to fret, some universities have rolling admissions where they accept applications throughout the year for admission in the next intake.

With over 4,500 accredited universities and colleges in the U.S., you are certainly bound to find universities to fit your specific requirements. The most important criteria is to check if the programs academic content and research carried out at the university matches your interest areas and whether you meet the eligibility requirements listed on the university website. This apart, your personal preferences on studying in a large or small campus, location, weather, tuition costs, and any other special facilities, will help narrow down your choice of universities.

For those high school students who are still not sure of their career pathway and interests, you could apply for an �undecided major in a U.S. university or apply to a liberal arts and science college. These give you the option of studying a wide range of subjects in the first two years and declare a major at the end of your second year. Another great option is to consider a two-year Associate Degree in a Community College for the first two years of your undergraduate degree and be on a transfer pathway to a university for the 3rd and 4th year of your undergraduate studies.

Alongside your research on universities, start the prep work for the standardized tests. Those who wish to pursue a Bachelors program should take the SAT or ACT and an English language proficiency test (TOEFL, IELTS or PTE); and those looking to do their Masters or PhD are required to take the GRE or GMAT and an English language proficiency test. Scores in the standardized tests and academic credentials in your high school or college are important. However, equally important are your extra-curricular activities, leadership skills, and a demonstrable interest in your chosen field of study. Some universities make the standardized tests optional. However, if you wish to widen your choice of universities, and if you are pitching for a scholarship or assistantship, you are required to submit the test scores.

As you start making plans, remember that you and your parents can seek guidance from Education USA, a U.S. Government funded program that has been set up to guide international students who wish to study in the U.S.

Here are some useful resources to get started:

- For guidance on the application process, look up: www.educationusa.state.gov and www.usief.org.in
- For regular updates on events, U.S. university announcements and scholarships, like us on: Facebook/EducationUSAatChennai
- Join free online sessions every Friday at 4 p.m. at: bit.ly/Educationusawebinar
- EducationUSA toll-free helpdesk at 1-800-103-1231 (Monday through Friday, 2-5 p.m.)
- EducationUSA channel on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/EducationUSAtv
- For a database of U.S. universities and colleges: www.petersons.com
To check accreditation status of universities and colleges: www.chea.org

To fix an appointment with the Education USA Center at the United States-India Educational Foundation, Chennai, contact tel. 044-28574134 or email: usiefchennai@usief.org.in

Thanks to Thinamalar (Kalvimalar) - 6.12.2016

How I Became a Top Student While Sleeping 8 Hours a Night



How I Became a Top Student While Sleeping 8 Hours a Night


Students today are busy. 

Really busy.

They have homework to do, projects to complete, extra classes to attend, and other responsibilities to fulfill.

It’s no wonder that most students are sleep-deprived, and find it almost impossible to lead a balanced life.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

In this article, I’ll share with you the 10 principles I used to become a top student who slept eight hours a night. (I’ve since completed my formal education.)

In case you’re curious, here are some of my academic achievements:

• I got 9 A1s for the GCE O-Levels.
• I got 4 As and 2 “Special” Paper distinctions for the GCE A-Levels.
• I received a full academic scholarship to study at Duke University in the USA.
• I did a double major at Duke and graduated summa cum laude (First Class Honors). My GPA was 3.98/4.0.
• I was inducted into three academic honor societies at Duke.
Just to be clear, I don’t think these achievements make me some super-impressive person.

Neither do I think that the main aim of education is to become a top student.

But through the process of becoming a better student, you’ll learn to be more organized, focused, disciplined, and meticulous.

These are skills and traits that will prove beneficial throughout your life.

Students who continually feel overwhelmed are those who spend most of their time on urgent tasks. These are usually the same students who are sleep-deprived!

To be an effective student, you must focus on important tasks before they become urgent.

The 10 principles outlined in this article will help you to do just that.
By applying the 10 principles, I guarantee you’ll get better grades, be less stressed, and have more time for things outside of school – including sleep!

Sounds good, right?

Let’s get started.

Principle #1: Stick to a routine.

You should definitely make room in your life for spontaneity. But without some kind of structure or routine, you won’t be able to achieve maximal productivity.

Creating a weekly routine is one of the most important steps to becoming a top student who has a balanced life.

Follow these steps to create a weekly routine that works for you:

(a) Take out your calendar. (I use Google Calendar, but a hard copy calendar works, too.)

(b) Create events in your calendar for all of your fixed, recurring commitments, e.g., school, music classes, extracurriculars, family events, religious activities.

(c) Looking at the remaining slots in your calendar, set aside time each day for homework and studying.

(d) Set aside time each day for leisure, relaxation, going out with friends, and so on.

At this point, your calendar will be filled with “fixed” appointments that will guide you as to how to spend your time.

Of course, these appointments may change once in a while. But by following what your calendar says you ought to be doing, you’ll have established a solid routine.

Principle #2: Write everything down.

When I say “everything,” I mean it.

As productivity expert David Allen says, “Your brain is a thinking tool, not a storage device.”

So don’t trust your brain to store information like:

• What homework has been assigned
• Homework or project due dates
• Test or exam dates
• Family events
• Project meeting dates/times
• Miscellaneous tasks
• Ideas that pop into your head

I’m sure you’ve already experienced how your brain doesn’t always remember such information perfectly.

So instead of relying on your memory, write it all down in an “everything” list. Use a notebook or, if you prefer, a smartphone app like Google Keep.

Here’s the system I recommend:

1. Once a day, review your “everything” list.

Perform this daily review when you get back from school, and have your calendar handy too.

Depending on what the item in your “everything” list is, do one of the following:

• If it’s a date you need to take note of, mark it down in your calendar.

• If it’s a task that will take three minutes or less to complete, do it immediately.

• If it’s a task that will take more than three minutes to complete, schedule an appointment in your calendar to do it.

• If it’s an idea or some type of information you’d like to keep for future reference, save it in a document in Dropbox or Google Drive.

This is a process that takes just five or ten minutes a day, but it’ll save you a lot of stress down the road.

You’ll be on top of things as they occur, and you won’t have to worry about what you might be forgetting.

2. At the end of each day, plan for the following day.

Before you stop work for the day, review your “everything” list and calendar once more.

If there are any tasks you weren’t able to complete, make a note in your calendar about when you’ll complete them.

This way, you’ll ensure you don’t leave anything to the last minute
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3. Every Sunday, review your upcoming events over the next two to three weeks.

Refer to your calendar every Sunday to see if there are any important events or dates to take note of, e.g., tests, project due dates, class presentations.

If necessary, make a note in your calendar about when you need to begin preparations for the event.

For example, if you have an important history test in two weeks, you might make a note to start studying for the test this coming Tuesday.

Principle #3: Make sleep and exercise a priority.

Various studies have shown that sleep improves memory and learning, and so does exercise.

Sleep and exercise have also been shown to lower the risk of cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and many other illnesses.

In other words, if you’re not getting enough sleep and exercise, you probably won’t be a top student who’s focused and motivated. You’ll probably also fall sick more often.

So why is it that so many students don’t get sufficient sleep and exercise?

Is it because they don’t have time?

No, it’s because they simply haven’t made sleep and exercise a priority.

After all, no matter how busy we are, we always make time to eat and shower.

In fact, when I made it a point to get eight hours of sleep every night while I was in university, my concentration, memory, and mood improved. So did my grades!

Because of my increased focus, I was able to take on more responsibilities outside of school, and I had more of a social life too.

Here are some practical steps you can take to help you get more sleep and exercise:

• Decide that sleep and exercise are non-negotables, just like eating and showering.
• Decide how much sleep and exercise you’d like to get.
• Decide on a consistent bedtime.
• Schedule sleep and exercise into your calendar, and make them part of your routine.
• Set a daily repeating alarm as a reminder for you to go to bed on time.
• Set a rule that you aren’t allowed to use your phone in bed.
• Remove all electronic devices from your bedroom.
• Find an exercise partner.
• Tell at least two or three people about your sleep and exercise goals.
• Put all of these goals down in writing.
• Review these goals several times a week.

Don’t try to make too many changes at once. Start small, and make gradual progress.

Soon enough, you’ll be a better, happier, and healthier student!

Principle #4: Keep up with the work

Staying on top of your work is easier said than done, I know.
But if you want to be a top student who isn’t too stressed, then consistency is key.

Here are some practical tips and strategies I recommend:

1. Complete your homework at least a day or two before it’s due.

By using the system described under Principle #2, this shouldn’t be too much of a struggle.

2. Skim through new topics before your teacher covers them in class.

One or two days before you learn a new topic in class, skim through the relevant notes or textbook chapter.

Pay attention to the learning objectives, headings, diagrams, and chapter summary.

These will give you a good idea as to what the topic is about, so you’ll be able to grasp the new concepts more quickly.

As an added bonus, you’ll also need to spend less time studying this material later on.

3. Review any new information you learn later that same day.

For example, say that today you learned about respiration in biology class, the Treaty of Versailles in history class, and population dynamics in geography class.

Once you have time, look through your notes for each of those topics to check that you understand what was taught.

This will ensure that you don’t fall behind in any of your classes.

4. Clarify your doubts right away.

If, during the review I described above, you realize you don’t understand certain concepts, then write down all your questions on a sheet of paper.

As soon as you have a chance, clarify your doubts with your teacher.

Don’t wait until just before your next test or exam to do so, because that will result in unnecessary anxiety. And anxious students are rarely successful students.

5. Use online resources.

If your teacher’s explanation isn’t clear enough, you can always turn to the Internet.

There are many educational resources out there, but these three are my favorites:

• Khan Academy
• SparkNotes
• BBC – GCSE Bitesize

6. Test yourself often.

After studying a topic, test yourself to see if you’ve memorized the relevant equations, definitions, concepts, and facts.

In addition, do as many practice questions as you can to ensure that you’ve mastered the topic.

Don’t assume that reading the chapter is the same as learning the chapter.

Reading is a necessary part of the learning process, but you must test yourself in order to master the information.

7. Attend every single class.

Do this even if you think your teacher is the most boring one in the entire world.

Why?

Because he or she understands the material far better than you, and knows which concepts are important and which aren’t.

By attending every class, you’ll prevent yourself from wasting precious time studying irrelevant information.

And no matter how monotonous your teacher’s voice is, you’ll still learn something during each class if you have a positive attitude.

8. When it comes to projects, always have a plan.

Too often, students rush to complete a project a few days before it’s due. This leads to sleep deprivation and undone homework.
If you want to become a top student, this is a combination to avoid.
Many students leave project work to the last minute because they don’t plan ahead.

If you want your project to be a success, you must first identify the following:

• Objectives
• Tasks
• Sub-tasks
• Milestones
• Timelines

I recommend that you use either Asana or Trello to manage your individual and group projects.

These tools will enable you to get your projects done both faster and better.

9. Start your test preparation early.

If you follow the system outlined under Principle #2, you’ll schedule a specific date to start studying for every upcoming test.

In addition, I recommend that you periodically review the topics you’ve learned. That way you won’t need to cram for tests.

Before you begin studying for a particular test, be clear about which topics will be covered, how long the test will be, and what the test format will be.

With this knowledge, you’ll be able to focus on the topics and types of questions that are most likely to be asked.

Principle #5: Focus on achieving progress, not perfection.

A big reason why students get demotivated is they feel that they’re not making progress – or that they’re making progress too slowly.

Often, this is because students become fixated on the desired outcome, rather than on the process necessary to achieve that outcome.

On your journey to becoming a top student, you’ll face challenges and disappointments.

Tests that you under perform in. Essays that your teacher doesn’t like. Group projects that turn out to be a mess.

So it’s essential to remember that the goal is progress, not perfection.

How can you ensure that you focus on the process?

By setting process-based goals instead of outcome-based ones.
The reason for doing this is that you can’t always control outcomes, but you can control processes.

By setting process-based goals, you commit to things you can achieve no matter what the eventual outcome is. So you’re putting yourself in a position to succeed.

Here are some examples of process-based goals you could set:

• Read one newspaper article and learn at least five new words a day.
• Do at least two extra math practice questions a day.
• Sleep at least seven hours a night on school nights.
• Exercise for at least 10 minutes a day.
• Check Facebook and Twitter a maximum of three times a day.
• Study for at least two hours a day on weekdays, and three hours a day on weekends.
• Start preparing for tests at least two weeks in advance.

Again, you can’t guarantee outcomes. But by setting process-based goals and monitoring your progress, you’re much more likely to get the results you want.

On the other hand, if you obsess over the desired end result without developing a plan for how to achieve it, you’ll likely be disappointed.

I’m not saying that the outcome doesn’t matter. But I am saying that the process is what counts in the long run.
So focus on making continual progress, and you’ll accomplish your goals over time.

Principle #6: Stay motivated using practical strategies.

No matter how badly you want to become a top student, or how driven you are to reach your goals, or how badly you want to make your teachers proud . . . there will be times when you’ll feel unmotivated.

You’ll feel like lying in bed all day.

You’ll feel like watching YouTube videos non-stop.

You’ll feel like doing anything except schoolwork.

How do you stay motivated when you feel this way?

Try these practical strategies:

• Reward yourself when you finish each task.
• Set a timer for three minutes and start work. Tell yourself that you can stop work after the three minutes are up, if you really don’t feel like continuing. (You’ll probably carry on with the task.)
• Work in short blocks of just 25 to 35 minutes.
• Put up some motivational quotes. My personal favorite is this one by Jim Rohn: “Don’t wish it were easier. Wish you were better.”
• Break tasks down into smaller steps so that they’re not so overwhelming.
• Visualize how you’ll feel when you finish the task you’re working on.
• Keep a list of the tasks you’ve completed to remind yourself that you’re making progress.
• Turn your schoolwork into a game. For example, you could give yourself five points for each task you complete, and give yourself a reward when you accumulate 20 points.
• Join a study group made up of motivated students. Their motivation will rub off on you.
• Get enough sleep, because tiredness is linked to a lack of motivation. (Refer to Principle #3 to get more sleep.)

Principle #7: Learn to say “no.”

I’ve worked with students who are insanely busy.

They’re involved in many extracurricular activities: music, art, sports, enrichment classes, and more.

If there’s way too much on your plate, you won’t be able to be a top student who gets eight hours of sleep a night – no matter how efficient you are.

There are only so many activities you can juggle at once without eventually burning out.

What’s the simple solution?

Learn to say “no.”

As you do this, here are some tips and guidelines:

1. Develop a variety of ways of saying “no” politely, so you’ll be equipped for every situation.

Here are some examples:

• “Thank you for thinking of me, but I’m sorry that I can’t make it.”
• “I’m sorry, but I can’t do that. Here’s what I can do instead . . .”
• “Thanks for the invitation, but I’ll have to pass.”
• “I appreciate you asking, but I apologize that I can’t help this time.”
• “I’m sorry, those dates don’t work for me.”
• “I’m sorry, my schedule is really packed for the next month.”
• “That sounds like a great opportunity, but I’m sorry that it’s not suitable for me.”
• “I’m sorry, I’ve already made other plans.”
• “I’d love to, but I’ve already made a commitment to help __________ (friend, family member, etc.) out.”

2. Don’t participate in more than two to three extracurricular activities.
These activities could be related to volunteering, learning a sport or musical instrument, or developing a new skill.
Whatever the activity is, don’t take part in more than two to three at any one time.

3. Categorize your friends and decide how much time to spend with each group.

This might sound like a strange suggestion, but it will make it easier for you to say “no” to social engagements that would have otherwise overloaded your schedule.
After all, time is a finite resource. It’s impossible to frequently hang out with everyone you consider a friend.
So here’s how to implement this tip . . .

Categorize all your friends into the following four groups:

• Acquaintances
• Casual friends
• Close friends
• Best friends

Next, decide how often you’ll hang out with each group in general.
For me, it looked like this:

• Acquaintances – once every few months
• Casual friends – once a month
• Close friends – once every one to two weeks
• Best friends – once every few days

By being clear about how much time you’ll spend with each group of friends, you’ll be intentional about investing in the friendships that mean the most to you.

Principle #8: Create systems for staying organized.

Have you ever started studying for a test only to realize that you don’t know where the relevant notes and assignments are?

Or do you keep your papers in a pile, only to spend way too much time rummaging through it when you need to find an assignment?
Being disorganized is a huge time-waster. So here are some tips to help you stay organized when it comes to (a) notes and assignments, and (b) email:

Notes and assignments

1. Bring an accordion folder to school every day.

The accordion folder should look something like this.

2. Assign one section of the accordion folder to each of your subjects or courses. Assign one additional section to your incomplete homework.

As the school day goes by, place the notes and graded assignments you receive in their respective sections.
Place your incomplete homework across all subjects in the “incomplete homework” section.

3. Get binders to be kept at home – one binder for each category of work for each subject.

For example, use one binder for your history notes, one for your history assignments, and one for your history tests and exams.

4. Once a day, look through the “incomplete homework” section of your accordion folder.

Do this to make sure that you haven’t overlooked any homework that’s been assigned.

5. Once a week, transfer all of your notes, graded assignments, etc. from your accordion folder to the respective binder.

If you do this consistently, you’ll realize if you’ve misplaced any notes or assignments. This way, you can get them replaced way before you need them to prepare for the next test.

Email

1. Forward all of your school email to your Gmail account.

I’ve used almost all of the popular free email services, and I’ve found that Gmail is by far the best.
So if you don’t already have a Gmail account, set one up.

2. Create as few email folders as possible.

In fact, most students should be able to get by without creating any additional folders.
Why do I suggest not creating folders?
Because it will simplify the way you process email.
In addition, the Gmail search function is so good that you’ll be able to find any old email you’re looking for.

3. Process your email just once a day.

I recommend that you do this on your computer, not your phone.
The danger of reading emails on your phone is that they’ll appear as read, even if you haven’t actually replied to or processed them.
But if you process your emails on your computer, you’ll likely have all the necessary information at hand, so you’ll be able to efficiently get through your inbox.

4. Follow these rules when processing your email . . .

• If an email doesn’t require a reply, archive it.
• If an email requires a reply, do so immediately if you have the time. After doing so, archive the original email.
• If an email requires a reply but will require significant time for you to write one, create a task (refer to Principle #2). Archive the original email only after you’ve replied to the email.
By following these rules, you should be able to get to “inbox zero” (everything out of your inbox) almost every day.
This is the best way to eliminate email stress, knowing that everything has either been handled or scheduled.

5. Use the Boomerang for Gmail app.

This app allows you to schedule a reminder to follow up with someone if he or she hasn’t replied to your email by a specific date.

This function is especially useful when it comes to group projects, because there are bound to be group members who don’t manage their email effectively.

The Boomerang for Gmail app has saved me dozens of hours over the past two years since I started using it!

Principle #9: Work on one task at a time.

It takes time to get into the flow of an assignment, so finish one before moving on to the next.

In addition, eliminate all forms of multitasking.

No texting, watching TV, or checking your Twitter feed while doing your schoolwork.

Research shows that multitasking just isn’t possible. When you think you’re multitasking, you’re actually just switching between tasks. This reduces your overall efficiency.

Here are some tips to help you focus on one task at a time:

1. At the start of each homework/study session, write down specifically what you’re going to work on.

Write this on a scrap piece of paper or a Post-it Note, which you can then put on your desk.
This will serve as a reminder of the task you’re supposed to be working on.

2. Allocate a specific amount of time to the task.

By giving yourself a realistic deadline, you’re more likely to concentrate fully on the task at hand.

3. Whenever you feel like switching tasks, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.

The urge to multitask or do something more “fun” comes in waves.
By closing your eyes and taking a few deep breaths, these waves will usually pass you by.
You can then get back to work.

4. Improve your focus gradually.

If you have trouble focusing, make progress one step at a time.
Start with 10 minutes of complete focus. Then, over the next week, increase it to 12 minutes, then 14 minutes, and so on.

Eventually, you’ll be able to focus for 30 to 40 minutes straight.

Principle #10: Eliminate distractions.

It’s not just the urge to multitask that hinders students from being productive. For many students, distractions are an even bigger problem.

Here’s a list of things you can do to eliminate or reduce common distractions:

• Turn off notifications on your phone.
• Reply to text messages only three times a day. Put this in your calendar as a series of mini-appointments.
• Archive all the inactive chats on your phone so they don’t clutter your messaging app’s home screen.
• Mute your group chats.
• Use an app like RescueTime, AppDetox, or Moment to manage your phone usage.
• Delete all the social media apps on your phone.
• Wear a watch so you don’t have to check your phone for the time.
• Use an extremely long password for your phone, so you won’t be tempted to use your phone mindlessly.
• Use headphones while you’re studying (even if there’s no music playing) so that others will be less likely to interrupt you.
• Do all of your schoolwork at your desk, not on your bed. As such, you won’t be tempted to laze around in bed.
• Put your phone in another room when it’s time to do work.
• Cancel your cable TV subscription.
• Use an app on your computer such as StayFocusd, SelfControl, or Freedom to restrict online distractions.
• Turn off your Internet access.
• Close all unnecessary programs or tabs on your computer.
• Tell the people around you when you’ll be doing your work. 

This way, they won’t interrupt you in the middle of your study session.
If you do all the things listed above, you’ll be much closer to becoming a top student.

But take it slowly.
Implement a few suggestions at a time until they become habits, then tackle a few more. Even one small change can make a big difference over the long term.

Conclusion

Every student wants to do well academically while also leading a balanced life.

Of course, this is easier said than done.

It took me 16 years of continual research and experimentation to develop the systems needed to achieve this. And I’ve shared some of these systems with you in this article.

But, for me, the real reward wasn’t the straight As or the accolades.

The reward was the process of challenging myself, of becoming a person of greater focus, self-discipline, commitment, and resilience. (Of course, I still have plenty of areas I need to work on!)

So as you implement the tips and techniques outlined in this article, I’m confident that you’ll make progress toward becoming a top student.

But more than that, you’ll become a student who’s equipped with advanced self-management skills.

These skills will allow you to contribute more effectively, serve more meaningfully, and make a difference more powerfully.

Now that’s an end goal worth working toward.

Wishing you all the best on this exciting journey!

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Updated on October 21, 2016 By Daniel Wong

15 Things Parents Should Stop Saying to Their Children


15 Things Parents Should Stop Saying to Their Children 



Do you wish you had a better relationship with your children?

Maybe your children don’t communicate much with you. They spend most of their time in their room, glued to their smartphone or computer.

Maybe they also lack motivation – except when it comes to social media and gaming.

If this describes your children, don’t despair. In this article, I’ll share with you specific ways to improve the situation.

I’ve spoken to and worked with 20,000 pre-teens and teens, and they’ve confessed to me why they behave this way.

Want to know the reason?

It’s because of the way their parents talk to them.

Of course, the parent-child relationship is a two-way street. But if parents stopped saying certain things, children would become more communicative, respectful, and responsible.

So here’s a list of 15 things that parents should stop saying to their children:

1. “You always …” or “You never …”

Have you ever said any of the following to your children?
• “You always wake up late.”
• “You always take the easy way out.”
• “You always get in trouble at school.”
• “You never submit your homework on time.”
• “You never do your chores.”
• “You never put your clothes in the laundry basket.”
When you use the phrase “You always …” or “You never …” your children will become defensive. The conversation may then turn into an argument.

After all, there probably have been times when your children did wake up on time, submit their homework before the deadline, or put their clothes in the laundry basket.

So try this approach instead.

State objective facts that your children can’t refute. For instance, you could say to your child: “Over the past week, you’ve woken up late three times, by more than 20 minutes each time. This is an issue we need to resolve.”

By citing specific examples, you and your children will have a more fruitful discussion.

2. “You should be ashamed of yourself.”

The aim isn’t to guilt your children into changing their behavior. Rather, the aim is to coach them to make decisions based on the right values and principles.

Instead of saying “You should be ashamed of yourself,” process the situation with your children.

Help them to see what alternatives they could have considered, so that they’ll make the right choice in the future.

3. “Good job!”

Studies indicate that, in healthy relationships, the ratio of positive comments to negative comments is roughly 6:1.

Unfortunately, I’ve observed that in many families this ratio is reversed. In these families, the negative comments far outnumber the positive ones.

As such, the home environment is tense, and sometimes hostile.
So it’s better to praise your children once in a while than not at all. But the kind of praise matters too.

Telling your children “Good job!” is too general. What exactly did they do that was commendable?

For praise to be meaningful, it must be specific.

Here are some examples of specific praise you could give your children:

• “That’s disciplined of you to have worked on your assignment for one hour straight.”
• “I appreciate that you’ve done all your household chores over the past two days.”
• “That’s thoughtful of you to set the table without anyone asking you to.”
• “I appreciate that you woke up on time for school today.”
The more you acknowledge your children’s good behavior, the more they’ll display that behavior.

4. “Why did you …”

You might complete this sentence by saying:
• “… hit your brother/sister?”
• “… drop the glass cup?”
• “… forget to bring your textbook to school?”
• “… skip school?”

It’s hard for your children to answer these questions in the heat of the moment. What’s more, your children will feel accused or threatened, so they’ll be more likely to lie.

Try asking “What happened?” instead.

For example, you might say: “Your teacher called to say that you skipped school yesterday. What happened?” There might be a legitimate reason, so don’t jump to conclusions.

5. “What’s wrong with you?”

This one is similar to Phrase #4.

Asking “What’s wrong with you?” will cause your children to become bitter and withdrawn. Besides, it isn’t a question that will help your children to reflect on their bad behavior.

To understand your children’s perspective, say this instead: “What was going through your mind when you did that?”

If you say this calmly, you’ll have a better chance of getting to the root of the problem.

6. “Don’t argue with me.”

You might say this out of exasperation, especially when you feel disrespected.

But from your children’s point of view, they may not think they’re being disrespectful at all. As children explain their opinion, they sometimes don’t realise that they’re being rude.

As such, telling them not to argue with you seems unreasonable.

I’m not saying you should tolerate all rude behavior, but I am saying that children need to know that their opinions count.

So refrain from saying “Don’t argue with me.” Rather, maintain your composure and ask gentle questions to get to the heart of how your children feel.

7. “Because I said so.”

This phrase is the cousin of Phrase #6, and it’s just as ineffective.
Children want to understand the rationale behind family policies. If they don’t, they won’t follow those policies – at least, not willingly.
So take the time to explain the logic to your children. I recommend that you get into problem-solving mode with your children. 

Brainstorm other possible solutions, and write them down as you go along.

Your children might just come up with ingenious ideas you hadn’t even thought of!

8. “I told you so.”

It’s tempting to say this when your children make a mistake that you’d already warned them about.

But resist this temptation. Your children know they’ve messed up, so don’t rub it in.

Discipline your children if necessary. But before you do that, process the situation with them. Remind them that you’re there for them, and that you love them.

After all, it’s when your children have made a mistake that they need your reassurance and support the most. They don’t need you to tell them “I told you so.”

9. “If I were you …”

Well-meaning parents say this to encourage their children to make a certain decision.

But when children hear this phrase, they immediately think to themselves: “Well, you’re NOT me!” They proceed to tune out the rest of the advice their parents provide.

What’s the better way of getting through to your children?

Share your feelings. Talk about where you stand on the matter. 

And make it clear that you want to hear your children’s perspective too. Ask them thoughtful questions, and really listen to their responses.

This is the only way to reach an agreement that both you and your children will find reasonable.

10. “Why can’t you be more like your brother/sister/cousin/friend?”

What’s the most common piece of parenting advice you’ve heard?
In all likelihood, it’s “Don’t compare.”

But as a parent, it’s so hard not to compare.

Parents use their children as benchmarks to assess their own ability as parents. This is one big reason why parents compare their children with others.

When you compare, however, your children feel as if your love for them is based on their behavior or performance. They feel as if you would approve of them more, if only they were more like their brother/sister/cousin/friend.

So remind your children that you love them exactly the same, no matter what they do. But at the same time, encourage them to pursue excellence.

Explain to them that we all have responsibilities, and that it’s important to do our best to fulfill those responsibilities.

11. “I know how you feel.”

As a parent, you’ve gone through childhood and adolescence. Which means you’ve experienced betrayal, rejection, and disappointment.

But just because you’ve gone through a similar experience to your children doesn’t mean you know how they feel.

Tweens and teens say to me, “Times have changed. My parents don’t understand how different things are today compared to when they were growing up.”

Do your best to see things from your children’s point of view. Step into their shoes. Try out their games and hobbies. Listen to their favorite music. Get to know their friends. And listen respectfully when they share their thoughts and feelings.

12. “When I was your age …”

You might finish this sentence by saying:

• “… I helped out so much more around the house.”
• “… I had so many more responsibilities than you.”
• “… I studied for eight hours a day.”
• “… I had to work for everything I wanted.”
• “… I didn’t have all the luxuries that you enjoy today.”

The indirect aim of saying this is to spur your child to become more grateful, hardworking, or disciplined.

But this approach doesn’t work.

Children are all too aware that things today are far different from 30 years ago, so they can’t relate to your experiences.

When you share your experiences, do it such that they understand you better – not as an attempt to coerce them into better behavior.

13. “I know what’s best for you.”

I like this insightful saying by Ann Landers: “It’s not what you do for your children that matters most. It’s what you teach them to do for themselves.”

In other words, parenthood is about helping your children to take full responsibility for their lives.

When you say “I know what’s best for you,” you’re exerting your parental authority. But you’re also missing out on an opportunity to let your children take ownership of the situation.

As long as your children aren’t in physical danger, I encourage you to let them make mistakes. That’s the only way they’ll acquire real-world knowledge and wisdom.

14. “There’s no reason to be scared.”

By saying this, you’re invalidating your children’s feelings. Over time, your children may start to suppress their feelings. They may even have trouble expressing their emotions.

I’ve seen this happen for many of my clients.

Instead of telling your children that they shouldn’t feel a certain way, empathize with them. Teach them to label their feelings and acknowledge them.

This way, your children will learn to manage their emotions, rather than ignore them.

15. “You’re not living up to your potential.”

Parents say this in the hope of inspiring their children to work harder. But this approach isn’t effective.

Why?

Because children will internalize the fact that they’re the type who doesn’t “live up to their potential.” They may begin to see this as a permanent trait.

Some of my clients share with me that they don’t see a reason to change their attitude, since they’ve already been labelled “lazy” or “unmotivated.”

A lack of motivation usually stems from unmet emotional needs. So offer your children help and support – not harsh criticism. And if you’re unable to get to the root of the issue, don’t be afraid to seek professional help.

The bottom line

If you feel like you’re having trouble communicating with your children, you’re not alone.

But rest assured that improving your parent-child relationship isn’t complicated.

All you have to do is stop saying the 15 things mentioned in this article, and you’ll see changes in the relationship. Little by little, your children will become happier, more motivated, and more responsible.

It’ll take time and effort, but it’ll be worth it.

Today’s the day to get started.

An earlier version of this article first appeared on Yahoo!.

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Updated on October 21, 2016 By Daniel Wong